What to do if the failures of 2018 is haunting your 2019?
Hi friends. Before sharing the message God placed in my heart, here is wishing you a very happy and blessed new year to you and your family!
With 2018 winding up, as we enter the new year, may God Almighty help us and guide us through the coming year too.
2018 came and went with its fair share of troubles, sorrows, guilt, pain, fears, doubts, failures, chaos, overwhelm and you think to yourself, how come no one else feels this way? You scroll through your facebook or instagram feeds and lo! everyone is so happy with fulfilled 2018s and is all pumped up for 2019. And you are just like
Well, dear friend if that’s what you want to focus, then that’s what you get – a dreadful 2018 and eventually dreading the coming year as well. If you want to look at all the lows and all the negative feelings and start comparing yourself to others who posted their joys and highs then its no doubt you will feel miserable.
Don’t worry, I’ll help you with the same help I myself have received from the God Almighty.
First of all, comparing yourself with others is a foolish idea, unless you genuinely have nothing better to do other than hurt yourself unnecessarily. Ill tel you why.
Don’t compare yourself with others. Just look at your own work to see if you have done anything to be proud of. You must each accept the responsibilities that are yours. – Galatians 6: 4-5
Comparing yourself to to others is no good because:
- Their life situation/ circumstance is totally different from yours.
- You cant compare someone else’s stage 10 with your stage 1.
- What God intends for them is totally different from what He intends for you. Your life is as unique as your fingerprint. You wanna compare your life, try comparing your fingerprint to someone else’s.
- They have their highs at some point and lows at some point and though they may update you with their highs not always do they update you with their lows. Would you update about your lows?
- Instagram/ Facebook is only 10% of people’s actual life; in case of social media influencers (like lifestyle bloggers or other kinds of celebrities), it may be 30% but that’s it, that means you dont even have a solid ground for comparison. Do you still wanna waste your time comparing unnecessarily?
Now you may go like, “but he/ she is my age and yet doing so much better off“. Well, I’ll help you here too.
- He/ She has a different path and different life destined for them specifically.
You have no right wanting your life path to be exactly like that of someone else’s even if they are of your same age. Why did God create humans unique in the first place then? If you are unique your life experience will be unique too. The age they marry is not the age you have to marry. The time they have kids is not the time you should have. The opportunity they had for their career is not what you will have. The time/ age some one else has success has got nothing to do with you. If you think it still gives you the right to compare then be ready for a fair share of depression and non motivation. Then don’t blame God.
2. His/ her troubles and challenges are different.
Just because he/ she has something you wish you had, doesn’t make their life any better than yours, because He / She is probably looking at some one else and wishing they had that. Wanting is always a part of human life no matter how much you have or whatever you have. Even Trump or the Kardashians or Ambani (an Indian billionaire) would be wanting something. Just that their want is different from yours.
So how do you get into the new year with all of these feelings wearing you down?
Now, just be here with me. I want you to think again.
That loss you had will make you appreciate your gains.
That failure you had will help you one step further to success.
That pain you had will make you stronger.
That overwhelm you had will teach you patience.
The chaos will teach you to be more organised.
The fear will teach you to seek God’s courage to defeat it.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. – Isaiah 41:10
Your doubts will drive you to have more faith in God.
True happiness and peace of mind is not when you have finally gained everything you want but when you depend on God’s grace, trust God’s deliverance and believe in His promises even amidst your pain and struggles .
The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God,which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4: 5b-7
Do you want to get pumped up for 2019 ?
If you want to get pumped up for 2019, then focus on your blessings, thank God for all the things he has already blessed you with.
No, No, don’t tel me there is nothing. Think again. Think about 2018.
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. – Philippians 4:8
Are you thankful for your family?
What about the love you have from your near/dear ones?
Have you had your favorite food at your favorite eat out?
Have you had the chance to dress up with a dress you love?
Have you had an outing or meet up with your friends?
Have you had at least one very memorable event in the past year? Doesn’t have to be anything fancy but it would have definitely have touched your heart.
Have you seen something so beautiful that it melted your heart enabling you to praise God, be it on TV or internet or social media?
Have you been able to learn something ? be it from an experience or a relationship or career or school or life in general?
Are you still alive to be in the new year? Do you have at least one person you love still alive?
Then, my dear friend you have way too much to thank God for, than you would have actually thought possible. Yes, you can reflect with joy the bygone year. You can celebrate with joy as you say good bye and welcome the new year. Yes, now you can get all pumped up for 2019 because you know what ?….
…..2019 may be scary but you are in for a wonderful ride. Life doesn’t go as planned but that’s okay because what is predictable is boring, whereas you are going to learn a lot, experience a lot of wonderful things and I’m sure you will have way more thankful beautiful moments and events as you celebrate it with your loved ones.
So be happy. God is going to bless you with an amazing year. He will fulfill your wishes. Come back on Dec 31, 2019 and tell me what God blessed you with this year, because let me tell you, He will surely bless you.
Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life – Psalms 23 : 6a
He told me to tell you this so that means He cares for you and wants to bless you and make this year truly great for you.
Look, I am with you, and I will watch over you wherever you go, and I will bring you back to this land. For I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.” – Genesis 28:15
Also, My prayers are with you .
Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. – 3 John 1:2
Do remember me and my family too in your prayers. See you in my next post guys.
Lots of love, prayers and best wishes,